By Charlotte Rose
Let’s start with Zen. What are some of the basic principles of Zen? Wikipedia has them listed as follows:
- Adjust your posture, adjust your breathing, adjust your mind (In service, we bring our whole selves)
- Be light like water in your social interactions (This too shall pass)
- Align your words with your actions (Be honest and true, first to yourself)
- Cultivate your inner safe space (Be your brother’s keeper)
- Surround yourself with people you admire (Be the one we admire – inspire someone)
How do we support those we serve to achieve these goals? We come as we are to every situation and circumstance. Success will require an all-hands-on-deck approach and mentality. Furthermore, we can only give that which we have, so we must therefore equip our staff with the tools and knowledge and support them so they can do this work wholeheartedly. This way, when the tough days show up they can withstand them, and when the delightful ones show up they can be recharged from them and when the funny ones show up , for they will, their humanity will shine through. Introduction to this philosophy, or way of looking at this work would require buy-in from the individuals we support to the best of each of their ability. We believe that no one can give that which they do not have. So the emotional and physical energy we uphold in our homes, benefits both the individuals and those rendering the support services.
We shall start with the architecture and design. We’d limit our options to ranch style homes for easy access and egress. By so doing we eliminate the announcement to the outside world that the inhabitants of the home need assistance with mobility – this honors the residents therein. Some of the design aspects of the interior of the home would ensure placement of equipment like microwave ensures reach for all residents and the refrigerator too. Bathrooms will meet the needs of each occupant as well. The décor will be such that there is ample space to allow for freedom of movement even as assistive mobility devices are in use. We build inclusive spaces with pleasing designs and décor because it upholds the dignity of those who reside therein. Avoid loud and vexatious sounds and mind the energy and tidiness of the space. This will bring healing and uphold a positive energy in the home. As much as we can, we’d do all these in conjunction with music and meditation.
Our psyche recognizes ancient sounds, even when we do not understand them per se, be they from African or Eastern cultures. There is a healing and a knowing that comes from listening to traditional African chants and drumbeats. But even without that knowledge, there is a knowing which transcends the intellect and brings calm to us. The same holds true for Eastern chants and drums. Could it be the rhythm of the embryo that grows into the heart beat which sustains us? Whatever it is, we know when we hear it because we recognize it.
As Humans we tend to compare ourselves to others. However, flawed that premise may be, an adult with an intellectual or developmental disability has lived their entire lives acutely aware of their otherness and have been defined by that disability whatever it may be. Therefore, it is incumbent upon us to make normal, pleasing, inviting, welcoming and wholesome the space they call home so they too can find their Zen. It is what we have been called upon to do and we must do so with courage and kindness because we are all just accompanying each other on this walk through life.
